Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Another One Bites the Dust
The one promising prospect i have found so far on POF has jumped ship. He is a teacher and part time DJ, and we are looking for the same thing. We've been e-mailing back and forth for a couple days. Things have been going well, he didn't seem like a creep or that he would send me any inappropriate photos. I decided to take initiative and send my personal e-mail and phone number. A couple days later and no response. Tonight I logged into POF and looked to check the e-mail had been sent. He did not appear in my inbox, outbox, or in the user search. Looks to me like he's off the site. I can't help but wonder if I scared him off. A simple no thanks will do. This just proves once again that if I think someone is too good to be true, they usually are.
Monday, April 11, 2011
I am like a yo-yo with this stuff.
I guess I just like the punishment. Here I am fully engrossed in round 3 with Plenty of Fish. The freak parade is in full swing. I'm being hit on by just about every type of person except the kind I'm looking for. Here is an excerpt from my profile;
I am a very laid back, fun loving girl. It's been a while since I've been in a relationship. I'm looking for someone who is willing to date, see where it goes and if all the stars align a long term commitment would be great. I am not into playing games, so if you have a wife or girlfriend please look elsewhere. I am also not here just to "hook up". I want to get to know you first!
Apparently this leads guys to write things to me like:
mmmmmmm!!!
Woah baby you are adorable.
Hi there cutie stuff.
Hey baby, what are you doing tonight?
I am a very laid back, fun loving girl. It's been a while since I've been in a relationship. I'm looking for someone who is willing to date, see where it goes and if all the stars align a long term commitment would be great. I am not into playing games, so if you have a wife or girlfriend please look elsewhere. I am also not here just to "hook up". I want to get to know you first!
Apparently this leads guys to write things to me like:
mmmmmmm!!!
Woah baby you are adorable.
Hi there cutie stuff.
Hey baby, what are you doing tonight?
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Yertle part 2
A week and a half went by since I sent Tim the goodbye e-mail, and I received his response. I figured if I did not respond to his request for a second chance, my silence would speak volumes. Just today I was thinking what a relief it was that he let it go, and did not respond. I jinxed myself. As I was eating my dinner at work, I got a text message from Tim. He reiterated what he said in his e-mail and again asked for a second chance. I pondered a response carefully. If silence didn't work before I wouldn't now. I responded saying, I just felt like there were many reasons we would not work out. Sorry. As I was getting home tonight I got a text again from Tim. It said, "Hi Allison, is it the distance?". Ugh. I had to restrain myself from responding with one of my typical useless facts. Hey, Tim, did you know Connecticut is the third smallest state in the country? So, no distance is not an issue. I have wanted to spare him the brutal truth of; we have no chemistry, we have nothing to talk about, your date night conversation depressed me, and you don't like to do anything! So I have sent my reply of "I just don't wish to pursue a relationship". Part of me (a small part) feels a little bad that I didn't go on that second date. Perhaps he would have been ok.. but a larger part of me feels like my instincts with him were right on. A little voice inside me said to run, so I am or at least I'm trying.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Yertle (the turtle)
November was my last official month of Match.com. I don't know why I chose to subscribe for the month, but being a glutton for punishment I did. The only prospect I had during the month of November was Tim. He e-mailed me a few times. To be blunt, he seemed quite dull. There were a few factors at play here. 1) The holidays were drawing near, and no one wants to be lonely at the holidays. 2) He was the only guy to write me during the entire month, and I did not want to waste my $34.99! I had contacted numerous guys, to no avail.. so Tim was it. I gave him my AOL e-mail so he could write to me once my subscription expired. He wrote once or twice, but I really didn't get to know much about him. Once my Match membership expired, I was not able to find his profile again. So, when he began talking about a date, I figured I had to find out his basic info. I could hardly remember what he looked like, let alone his interests. I guess this tells us the kind of impression he made! Anyway, I managed to find him on Facebook and sent a friend request so I could snoop on his info.
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We arranged to meet Dec. 23rd after I got out of work. He suggested Ruby Tuesday in Cromwell as a mutual meeting point. He is 31 (but looks 41), average height and build, with light colored receding hair. Not bad looking, but nothing about him would stand out in a crowd. He dressed very conservatively (not the type I usually go for). We met, sat down for dinner and not a heck of a lot happened. Conversation was bland, he didn't get my jokes (I really wanted to lighten the mood) and about all we had in common was that we both like cats. He proceeded to tell me a story about when his cat got sick and he had to have him put down. Now THAT is fun date conversation. I was much relieved when he seemed eager to get out of there. He paid for dinner (points to Tim), and he walked me to my car (more points). Now nothing that happened during dinner led me to believe he was going to kiss me goodnight. He certainly didn't seem the forward type (and I wouldn't have been surprised to discover he was a virgin). Well, I thanked him for dinner and attempted a friendly (but not too friendly) hug, when he leaned in and kissed me. I was so stunned I just stood rigid with my mouth clamped shut. I guess he didn't notice my reaction. I was not even home yet, when he sent me a text saying he couldn't wait to see me again. When I didn't respond right away, he went on Facebook. He sent me a message there, saying he had a great time and hoped to do it again soon. I've been on dates where I had a good time and the guy did not, but this time I totally thought it was a mutual lousy time. I was shocked that he had such a great time, who'd know.. he certainly didn't express it during dinner!
I didn't directly answer Tim right away about going out again. It was Christmas weekend, and life was busy. He asked a few more times and I was friendly but evasive. I decided that if I were to go out with him again, it had to be us doing a fun activity together. However I knew nothing about what he liked to do. All he talked about when we were together was what he used to do. I went back to e-mailing with the get to know you type questions. I wasn't getting too far with making a decision on what we both liked to do. He kept asking me over and over whether or not I was a romantic. I answered maybe 3 different ways, I don't know if he ever got an answer he liked! Finally one night he e-mailed me asking if I thought he'd kissed me too soon. I explained that I am not offended by kissing on the first date, IF it fits the tone of the evening, and if two people have great chemistry. I added that he caught me off guard because I didn't think our evening had gone that well, and he didn't strike me as the kind of guy who moves that fast. His reply was nothing short of baffling. He responded by telling me that he "agreed our kiss fit the tone of our evening, because we had such great conversation, a great meal, and it was short, sweet and perfect". What? What date was he on? Maybe he has me confused with someone else. Anyway, I decided he was too hard to communicate with. He was clearly not paying attention to what I had to say. Perhaps this is why he kept repeating the same questions? I stopped writing to him, only to have him write me once more asking when I was free to go out again. When I did not respond in a day or two, he tried Facebook, and when I did not respond to that within hours, he tried texting. I got so fed up, I finally drafted a good bye e-mail to him last Weds. I simply stated that I didn't think we were a match, but I was sure he'd find someone great.. good luck. The next morning, I got an e-mail back from Tim. He said that he would like me to give him a second chance, and he would show me what a great match we are. Yikes. I will update if I ever hear more. I have chosen not to respond.
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We arranged to meet Dec. 23rd after I got out of work. He suggested Ruby Tuesday in Cromwell as a mutual meeting point. He is 31 (but looks 41), average height and build, with light colored receding hair. Not bad looking, but nothing about him would stand out in a crowd. He dressed very conservatively (not the type I usually go for). We met, sat down for dinner and not a heck of a lot happened. Conversation was bland, he didn't get my jokes (I really wanted to lighten the mood) and about all we had in common was that we both like cats. He proceeded to tell me a story about when his cat got sick and he had to have him put down. Now THAT is fun date conversation. I was much relieved when he seemed eager to get out of there. He paid for dinner (points to Tim), and he walked me to my car (more points). Now nothing that happened during dinner led me to believe he was going to kiss me goodnight. He certainly didn't seem the forward type (and I wouldn't have been surprised to discover he was a virgin). Well, I thanked him for dinner and attempted a friendly (but not too friendly) hug, when he leaned in and kissed me. I was so stunned I just stood rigid with my mouth clamped shut. I guess he didn't notice my reaction. I was not even home yet, when he sent me a text saying he couldn't wait to see me again. When I didn't respond right away, he went on Facebook. He sent me a message there, saying he had a great time and hoped to do it again soon. I've been on dates where I had a good time and the guy did not, but this time I totally thought it was a mutual lousy time. I was shocked that he had such a great time, who'd know.. he certainly didn't express it during dinner!
I didn't directly answer Tim right away about going out again. It was Christmas weekend, and life was busy. He asked a few more times and I was friendly but evasive. I decided that if I were to go out with him again, it had to be us doing a fun activity together. However I knew nothing about what he liked to do. All he talked about when we were together was what he used to do. I went back to e-mailing with the get to know you type questions. I wasn't getting too far with making a decision on what we both liked to do. He kept asking me over and over whether or not I was a romantic. I answered maybe 3 different ways, I don't know if he ever got an answer he liked! Finally one night he e-mailed me asking if I thought he'd kissed me too soon. I explained that I am not offended by kissing on the first date, IF it fits the tone of the evening, and if two people have great chemistry. I added that he caught me off guard because I didn't think our evening had gone that well, and he didn't strike me as the kind of guy who moves that fast. His reply was nothing short of baffling. He responded by telling me that he "agreed our kiss fit the tone of our evening, because we had such great conversation, a great meal, and it was short, sweet and perfect". What? What date was he on? Maybe he has me confused with someone else. Anyway, I decided he was too hard to communicate with. He was clearly not paying attention to what I had to say. Perhaps this is why he kept repeating the same questions? I stopped writing to him, only to have him write me once more asking when I was free to go out again. When I did not respond in a day or two, he tried Facebook, and when I did not respond to that within hours, he tried texting. I got so fed up, I finally drafted a good bye e-mail to him last Weds. I simply stated that I didn't think we were a match, but I was sure he'd find someone great.. good luck. The next morning, I got an e-mail back from Tim. He said that he would like me to give him a second chance, and he would show me what a great match we are. Yikes. I will update if I ever hear more. I have chosen not to respond.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Done "fishing" for now.
In the wake of last week's POF incident, I have taken down my profile on the site. Of course I have done that before only to reinstate it at a later date. You know me, just a glutton for punishment. I am keeping up my latest match.com profile for now. Things are moving slowly on there at the moment. There are so many tales I have yet to share that I've got stashed away. I can keep everyone entertained for a while yet!
Thursday, November 11, 2010
match.com.. again
A few weeks ago, I took down my long standing match.com profile. I'd used the same one for 5-6 years now. Same screen name, same pics (some new some old), same write up. I'd canceled it last month for good. I finally just decided to erase it all together, and start fresh. I am always the optimist, so I thought maybe an all new profile would do me some good. I started all over, new pics, new screen name, and newer, simpler write up. It's been a couple of weeks and I've not met anyone new. Actually a bunch of the same guys I'd either talked to, or rejected in the past are giving the "new me" a chance. Too funny, I guess I should not have expected different. But it's worth giving it another month. As always, at least I'll get some good stories out of it. I also have to thank Sarah and Dave for going through match.com with me Monday night and helping me "wink" at some new guys. It's fun to get someone else's opinion. Of course it's also always fun to pick out the weirdos and laugh at them too! I had a blast.
Got Pix?
Sunday night I decided to log into Plenty Of Fish to see what was new. I hadn't logged in for a while, pretty much giving up on the site. I found an e-mail from a 28 year old (somewhat cute) guy from RI. His e-mail caught my eye since it was unusually normal for POF. A copy of the text follows:
It's really hard to find people on this site that are on for the right reasons as well as that are real. I have been on the site a couple months now and let me tell you, Its crazy out there in the internet dating world. You come across some weird people on here, and a lot of them are immature and just looking to get attention from the opposite sex.
I'm sure you have gotten some silly emails as well. Especially the classic one liner emails hahaha don't be shocked but girls do it too... I think that if you are interested in someone then you need to put forth a great effort to do so, and that comes in all aspects of life, unfortunately some people don't get it.
So anyways... tell me a lil bit about yourself, like where are you originally from, What's your occupation, and what do you like to do in your spare time etc.
How long have you been single? I have been single a little over a year now and I just started getting back into the dating scene once again.
Ok I think I rambled enough for the first email, just getting the conversation flowing :o) So if your up for chatting that would be great. Hey...what's the harm in that
Hope your having a great day and I look forward to hearing from you soon....
Based on this, I decided to drop this guy a line. It turned out we shared some interests, and seemed like we were looking for the same things. After the second e-mail exchange I was so excited at the prospect that I jumped in and swapped phone numbers with him. Just an hour or so later, Joe sent me a text message. We went back and forth exchanging pleasantries and talking about our jobs. He asked if I had any more pics I'd like to share. I sent him a few I had on my phone, that were recent and somewhat flattering. He sent me one of him, and as he'd been on the site, he was absolutely adorable. Next he asked for a "body shot" and I made the major mistake of saying "sure" thinking he just meant a shot of him standing (not a head shot). What he sent me was a picture of his hairy man gut in the mirror. Nothing to brag about, as it appeared he was working on a set of 30 pack abs! I was perplexed, but not nearly as stunned as I was to receive his follow up. Yes, folks.. he sent me a picture of his penis. There it was in all it's glory.. standing at attention and all! I debated about what to say in response.. or whether to respond at all. After a while, he asked me to send a pic of myself. I decided to respond with "I thought you were not like all those other weirdos on the web site?" To which he responded with "Really.. I'm not, I just think you're cute! How bout some pics?". When I didn't respond he waited till yesterday morning to start texting me asking where the pics are. I kept on ignoring, here we are on Thursday night.. and he's still texting and I'm still ignoring him. I really think it may be time to take down that POF profile for good.
It's really hard to find people on this site that are on for the right reasons as well as that are real. I have been on the site a couple months now and let me tell you, Its crazy out there in the internet dating world. You come across some weird people on here, and a lot of them are immature and just looking to get attention from the opposite sex.
I'm sure you have gotten some silly emails as well. Especially the classic one liner emails hahaha don't be shocked but girls do it too... I think that if you are interested in someone then you need to put forth a great effort to do so, and that comes in all aspects of life, unfortunately some people don't get it.
So anyways... tell me a lil bit about yourself, like where are you originally from, What's your occupation, and what do you like to do in your spare time etc.
How long have you been single? I have been single a little over a year now and I just started getting back into the dating scene once again.
Ok I think I rambled enough for the first email, just getting the conversation flowing :o) So if your up for chatting that would be great. Hey...what's the harm in that
Hope your having a great day and I look forward to hearing from you soon....
Based on this, I decided to drop this guy a line. It turned out we shared some interests, and seemed like we were looking for the same things. After the second e-mail exchange I was so excited at the prospect that I jumped in and swapped phone numbers with him. Just an hour or so later, Joe sent me a text message. We went back and forth exchanging pleasantries and talking about our jobs. He asked if I had any more pics I'd like to share. I sent him a few I had on my phone, that were recent and somewhat flattering. He sent me one of him, and as he'd been on the site, he was absolutely adorable. Next he asked for a "body shot" and I made the major mistake of saying "sure" thinking he just meant a shot of him standing (not a head shot). What he sent me was a picture of his hairy man gut in the mirror. Nothing to brag about, as it appeared he was working on a set of 30 pack abs! I was perplexed, but not nearly as stunned as I was to receive his follow up. Yes, folks.. he sent me a picture of his penis. There it was in all it's glory.. standing at attention and all! I debated about what to say in response.. or whether to respond at all. After a while, he asked me to send a pic of myself. I decided to respond with "I thought you were not like all those other weirdos on the web site?" To which he responded with "Really.. I'm not, I just think you're cute! How bout some pics?". When I didn't respond he waited till yesterday morning to start texting me asking where the pics are. I kept on ignoring, here we are on Thursday night.. and he's still texting and I'm still ignoring him. I really think it may be time to take down that POF profile for good.
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